Well, obviously we are all in the ‘moms of toddlers’ stage of life! There are plenty of things that call for our attentions at home and just meeting those demands can be all consuming at times. BUT we are created to be relational beings and at some level we need and want friendships in our lives! In order to make and maintain friendships at this stage in life, my mentality has been ‘make the most of each moment!’ Some things that I do to implement this are:
- I must confess that if I am talking you to on the phone I am most liking doing something else at the same time! I find that this gives me the time to do two things that I value highly …. caring for my family and home and also maintaining friendships! I’m not going to be doing something that requires too much brainpower, but folding laundry, washing dishes or making sandwiches are a few things that can easily be done while having a conversation and if the conversation needs to go a little deeper I can simply stop for a moment and focus in on the call.
- Another favorite for me are the famous ‘play dates!’ Getting to chat with another mom while our kids play together (at a home, park or play area) is a wonderful way to connect with a friend and to care for my kids at the same time. I’m always so grateful for the time together and thankful for grace and understanding as we continue to parent our children in front of each other!
Be Spontaneous –
- Like Leah mentioned in her post, inviting someone over for dinner at the last minute might seem unconventional, but it never hurts to try it! I like to call people when I am thinking of them and invite them for sometime that week. Maybe it works and we are able to connect, maybe it doesn’t and then we can get something on the calendar for a later date.
- Sit down and write a note/e-mail or make a phone call right when I think about it. Most thoughts don’t survive in my pregnant brain too long, so doing something about those thoughts in the moment is a must! (If I don’t have time for something right at the moment, I write it down … lists are a MUST around here!)
Are there some ways that YOU ‘make the most of each moment’ with your friendships???