What cultivates a deep relationship for my marriage is really simple. I racked my brain trying to decide what to write in this post because the answer seemed too simple. The thing that has worked the most for us is a true commitment to TALK. We really do not get regular date nights and my husband is gone a lot for work. When he is in town we probably talk for at least an hour everyday. We talk about everything. I have learned questions to ask him about work and football and he has learned to listen to me debrief the day or talk in circles (which he hates :) until I find my point about something that I am passionate about. If we were confused or hurt by something the other did we would stay up and talk it out. Yes this meant a TON of late nights the first 5 years of marriage. This also has meant me learning to really understand and like a lot of the things that he likes and is interested in. It means staying on top of who plays for his favorite team or having his coworkers over for dinner or staying on top of the news or joining a fantasy football league. This has also meant me learning to text and message and email. This season of life in particular I have had to learn to keep communication a priority over cleaning or having a craft of my own or many other things :) We are blessed though through all the bouts of the stomach bug or overseas travel or family turmoil in that we are a team and we have a deep affection for one another.
TALK it out! October 28, 2009