I totally agree with the points that Andie made yesterday: Friendships were leagues easier to maintain before marriage and children arrived on the scene! But unlike Andie, I do not have the natural desire to be overly social. Therefore, as my time is spent caring for my husband, my home, and my children- I can very easily neglect friendships without even meaning to! Here are some ways I have found to encourage myself to seek out friendships:
Pick your friends wisely: My husband and I aim to spend time with other couples/families that will not only spur us on, but who we can encourage as well- knowing that God often blesses us through our relationships.
Remind yourself that your family is not necessarily built like you are: I have to remind myself often that just because I am content at home with a book or a movie…my kids and husband may not be! I try to schedule some kind of playdate (for the kids) and talktime (for the grown-ups) each week. Sometimes it’s during the day with just me and kids and other times it’s in the evening or on a weekend when Daddy can join us.
I know, some of you are thinking “ONLY ONCE A WEEK!?!?” but trust me- that’s a big deal for some of us. :-)
Invite someone over on a whim: If I think about it too much- the invite never happens….so I am realizing more and more that it’s not wierd (and often not even inconvenient!) to invite someone over for dinner with just a hour or two to spare before mealtime. Families with children are flexible beings and are almost always up for the adventure!