A few ways that I cultivate respect for my husband…
1. Think on truth! I have often found when we do not have time to communicate (which happens often due to his travel schedule) I will often think the worse of it. I will think things like he doesn’t care, he is way off in his priorities, he died in a car accident, etc. I have come to find that this is often the farthest from what is really going on. It is discipline for me to only dwell on what I know to be a fact and to stop assuming things until I have time to lovingly ask questions. It is also hard for me to wait :) But my assuming has really damaged our relationship and it is something I want to strive to avoid at all costs. I know my husband loves me and the family, I know he works hard to further the gospel and spread the message of salvation, and I know he is not perfect. He is much more receptive to questions/correction when it comes from a place of respect and assumptions of good rather than delusion or negative.
2. Think on positives! Instead of keeping a list of wrongs, try and everyday think on the good things your husband does. I make it a goal to actively think everyday about the wonderful things my husband has done that day or in the past if he is gone. These can be little things like the kind look he gave me in the morning, or the diaper he just changed, or the morning he let me sleep in without me asking :)
3. Learn and/or observe your husband where he excels! Another thing that has helped me is really listening to my husband talk about his work. I try to learn as much about what he does and listen to him actively. I also try to just listen and not talk or offer advice unless asked :) Some things that he has to deal with absolutely make me cringe and I want to rush in and fix the situation. Learning to be patient and watch as he navigates tough waters and makes crazy things happen has helped me realize how wonderful he is and how faithful the Lord is to teach and guide. I was able to observe my husband produce a video recently and was blown away by his skills in getting things done.