Having fun with my husband can be somewhat of a challenge :) He is a very hard working guy who doesn’t have many hobbies. He doesn’t really like games, he is way too competitive to play sports with me (I am not competitive, nor am I very coordinated :), and he travels a lot. We also have 4 kids under the age of 8 who keep us very busy. So some would ask how in the world do you guys have fun??? What do you even do together?
My answer is the Wii, much like the Moffatt’s. The only twist is that we have to play games that I can actually beat him at to add the competitive element (boxing, DDR , bowling :). Sometimes I turn it into a tournament in which we keep score and play a mix of games. I really like just having fun but in order to pull him in I have to try and be a little competitive.
We also really enjoy movies together but you do not really interact during a movie. We do try and watch interesting films that we can talk about afterward and analyze together.
When we go out it is nice and we really enjoy just talking with each other. We could talk for hours and often do by the time we actually get a date in. We like to go out to appetizers or dessert to save a little money. We have fun trying new places and picking places that are nice enough to hang out in for 2-3 hours. If you can get to places during happy hour most restaurants offer great half price appetizers and it is a fun way to get good food and not spend very much money. We also LOVE exploring our city together. When the weather is nice we go for long walks in different parts of the city. We have gone all over Minneapolis and had many different kinds of adventures finding new Farmers Markets, running into friends, or meeting new people. We can also bring our kids along :)
I usually am the one that has to plan and initiate fun things. This can be hard when you are exhausted and have been coming up with fun things all day for little ones but the rewards that you reap in your marriage far outway a little exhaustion. It is a challenge for me to think of fun things to do and sometimes it just comes down to my attitude. Being cheerful and just slowing down enough to listen and draw my husband out each day go a long way to us having fun together.